Shyness
Date: Wednesday, 20 October 2004 (18:48:26) UTC Topic: Dating Advice
Yeh well here it goes....
Basically i think i'm the shyest guy on earth, and well there is this girl at work, and i try to talk to her, but it's basically just like...hey how you doing? and that's our conversation. I try to strike up a conversation, but i never know what to say....in my mind i'm thinking, damnit think.... say something.....but i never do.
And i always she her at this club i goto, and i'm like tonight's the night, i'm dancing with this girl and i head towards, but when i get to her i walk right by her and chicken out like a pansy.
Anywho long story short, I have zero confidence in myself. How does one overcome that?
GFS: It's tough. Tell yourself, everyone else is in the same boat. And think, what's the worst that can happen? The worst thing is that she'll think you're shy (which she probably already knows.)
Just relax and if it doesn't work out, well, you'll do better next time. Don't put too much pressure on yourself about. If you're shy and uncomfortable, it makes the other person uncomfortable as well... and that will just make it worse for yourself.
So next time, go up to her and say hi. Then ask her if you can buy her a drink. Then start things off by talking about things you have in common: work, the club etc. But don't bore her with too much work stuff. Ask her about herself... that will give you a chance to relax and just listen.
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